The problem may seem big but every problem is usually solved in small pieces.   When ever I do consulting,  parenting, supervision, I  try stick to the basics.   What small steps will bring order.?  Who is in control?  A simple practiced decision tree helps me cut through to the chase.   Simple questions such as…Who is the problem? How big is the problem?  Will it matter next week, month, year?  What is the child, person capable of?    The goal is learning, love and maturity.

Realizing that with love, boundaries, teaching and listening … most problems diminish now or over time.