HelpThru Parenting Daily Encouragements To Learn And Practice
Moments of Play
Play can be almost all the time if I look for ways to enjoy and make things fun including work. it’s an attitude o your mind. It a taking every moment if you look for both long and short term enjoyment. Can I The first of several natural moments is: […]
Generational Patterns
Everyone carries generational (even if you were not raised in a family) patterns which is shown by how we think, feel, react, view life and relationships. The previous generation can teach children how to feel and perceive life from their experience without the children ever having lived in the same context. Learning to feel […]
Siezing The Moment
Do It Now ! Now is the opportunity. The door’ been opened with the topic: time, situation, people, places, things, playgrounds, context, season, and on and on… you’ll only skate when there’s ice, you’ll never have now again. These are the windows we wait for,,, pray for. It’s the teaching moment, the time […]
Moments Of Gathering
Moments of gathering are when people are already gathered. Every family should eat together at a table looking at each other regularly in some type of manner. If this is something new then make a plan and work towards it. Use these times as opportunities: Have some types of sharing at this time.. sharing the […]
Kids Being Us
When I say Kids being us I am not saying they don’t have choices, I ‘m saying they are absorbing and responding to what they experience. In another post I wrote about “Who watches who the most”? (kid Predicting Us) that describes more about kids observing us. I think that kids not only learn our […]
Kids Predicting Us
Who watches who the most? After working in residential programs for years I can tell you that the “watchers are often the watched”. If some one controls my life I’m sure gona to keep an eye on them. We often see kids as not paying attention but actually they see the things that […]
Fear Based Parenting
I see this one a lot. (also see Blind Spots) Most parents have some area that they are living in reaction too, probably more that they realize. Fear based parenting is usually driven out of insecurity, reaction, and/ or an attempt to control those things that in reality are against the odds. I’m not talking […]
Blind Spots
Everyone has blind spots! They start with beliefs, personality types, generational patterns, and /or character problems. They often hide behind a strength or a fear. I’m straight forward, but don’t realize bluntness hurts others who may have different personality styles or wounds than me. I’m fearful about an aspect of my child […]
Perspective Change
Is the glass half empty or half full? In all of my years working as a supervisor for treatment programs I have seen one thing consistently. The clients change easier than the staff. When the staff changes their perspective, often the clients act and think differently. When I see my staffs’ potential they eventually rise […]
Deception
When do kids start to deceive? Some research has confirmed as early as 7 months. It’s often starts in play. Subtle manipulation, a type of fun or trickery. Many questions arise as: What to you do?. Should I discipline? Am I imagining something? Take a close look and figure out the “why” of a […]
Taming A Tantrum
How do you tame a tantrum? First read Analysis of a Tantrum. Kids are far more aware of your thinking and responses than you realize. They know the backdoor to your thinking. They can by pass your logic. How ? Because they’ve checked out all of the ways in which you respond to them. They […]
Perspectives Change
Is the glass half empty or half full? In all of my years working as a supervisor for treatment programs I have seen one thing consistently. The clients change easier than the staff. When the staff changes their perspective, often the clients act and think differently. When I see my staffs’ potential they eventually rise […]