When I say Kids being us I am not saying they don’t have choices, I ‘m saying they are absorbing and responding to what they experience. In another post I wrote about “Who watches who the most”? (kid Predicting Us) that describes more about kids observing us. I think that kids not only learn our […]
How do you tame a tantrum? First read Analysis of a Tantrum. Kids are far more aware of your thinking and responses than you realize. They know the backdoor to your thinking. They can by pass your logic. How ? Because they’ve checked out all of the ways in which you respond to them. They […]
Keep it simple! The problem most of the time will suggest a solution. For instance, If the problem is a child’s back talk then the solution is communication with respect. If the problem is disobedience then solution is training and discipline. If the problem is irresponsibility, the solution is a responsibility with accountability including consequences. […]
Acting “as if” has the power to make or break the future. When I believe the worst, I act “as if” the worst will happen. I set up the cycle. It’s about breaking patterns. When I do relationship consultation I am usually focusing on the patterns. Parents get into patterns of how they respond or rather react. […]
“Begin with the end in mind” (Stephen Covey). All things work best with a beginning, middle, and end. It’s usually the end we remember the most. You know it by the silence, yelling, anger, and frustration. Unresolved issues typically progress into something bigger than a moment. Frustration leads to isolation which then may lead […]
The problem may seem big but every problem is usually solved in small pieces. When ever I do consulting, parenting, supervision, I try stick to the basics. What small steps will bring order.? Who is in control? A simple practiced decision tree helps me cut through to the chase. Simple questions such as…Who is […]