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Taming A Tantrum
How do you tame a tantrum? First read Analysis of a Tantrum. Kids are far more aware of your thinking and responses than you realize. They know the backdoor to your thinking. They can by pass your logic. How ? Because they’ve checked out all of the ways in which you respond to them. They […]
Analysis Of A Tantrum
What is a tantrum? No I don’t mean the emotional demands and feelings. What is it at its basics. … It’s noise, loud, obnoxious, dramatic. It’s water, tears, spit and occasionally other messy reactions. It’s movement, ecstatic, impulsive, and erratic. That’s it! Can we handle this? Is this really that big? Why are we […]
I Thought I Told You To..
This is that moment when everything you have said or done before seems to have never happened. …We’ve been through this… I’ve explained this before…. Didn’t you hear me tell you???… If I have to tell you this one more time. Are ya deaf child? You begin to wonder if you or your child has […]
The Problem Should Offer The Solution!
Keep it simple! The problem most of the time will suggest a solution. For instance, If the problem is a child’s back talk then the solution is communication with respect. If the problem is disobedience then solution is training and discipline. If the problem is irresponsibility, the solution is a responsibility with accountability including consequences. […]
Pushing Back Authority
I often see parents who see their child as stong willed. There is a distinct difference between the strong will child vs the child who has pushed back authority. From my 30 years experience I believe most children push back authority. How does that look? The parent starts to take action and the child raises […]
What Do I Discipline ?
If discipline means train….and all training is meant to bring safety, maturity, respect, wisdom, order, ….. then discipline is an issue of the child’s need and or ability. For a starter If a directive is given and the child is unwilling to comply then training/ discipline is in order. If I told my kiddo to sit down then that […]
The Discipline Decision Tree
How do I decide what type action and or consequence is the next step… by the ability of the child to make a choice. If a child can make choices then s/he can also be held accountable for the choices they make. This may start with compliance to redirection. How do you know when the […]